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The Belief That’s Been Running Your Life Isn’t Even Yours

There's a particular kind of limiting belief that is frustrating precisely because it makes no logical sense.

You know, intellectually, that you're capable. The evidence is there. You've had wins. You've figured things out before. And still — some quiet voice at the back of your mind keeps running the same line. You got lucky. You're not really that good. It's only a matter of time before the right people figure it out.

Or maybe your version is quieter than that. A vague reluctance to be seen. A habit of underselling yourself in rooms where you should be standing fully upright. A pattern of pulling back just when things start to go well.

These aren't random glitches. They have origins. And tracing those origins is one of the most clarifying things you can do.

How Beliefs Get Wired In

The brain is extraordinarily efficient at learning from emotionally charged experience.

When something happens to you as a child — something that carries real emotional weight — your brain doesn't just file the memory. It draws a conclusion from it. It decides what that experience means about the world, about other people, and about you.

Those conclusions become the filter through which you interpret everything that follows. You're not choosing to believe that you're not enough, or that success brings punishment, or that asking for help signals weakness. You formed those beliefs at an age when you didn't have the cognitive resources or the life context to form anything more accurate. Then life kept presenting you with experiences that seemed to confirm them — because that's what filters do.

Think of these as grooves worn into the terrain of your thinking. The more times a belief gets reinforced, the deeper the groove. The deeper the groove, the more automatically your responses run along it. That's not a character flaw. That's just basic neuroscience. But it does mean that if you want to create a new groove, you first need to see the old one clearly.

The Labels That Built the Cage

Some of the most stubborn limiting beliefs don't come from dramatic events. They come from ordinary, repeated experiences that accumulated quietly over years.

Being labelled — even casually, even without malice — has an outsized effect on a developing mind. "You're so sensitive." "You're the smart one." "You're not really a sporty kid." "You're too much." These labels land in a child's mind as facts. Not one person's limited perception on a bad day. Facts about the kind of person you are and what you're capable of.

The child who was "the smart one" sometimes grows into an adult who avoids genuine challenges, because failure would shatter the only identity that ever felt valuable. The child who was "too much" learns to moderate themselves, to stay just below the threshold where they might be pushed away. These are trapped priors: early conclusions that got locked in, never updated by the new information that arrived later.

Recognising them doesn't require concluding your childhood was a disaster. Most of these labels weren't delivered with cruelty. Understanding that doesn't minimise the impact. It just makes the whole thing easier to work with.

Following the Emotional Thread

The most practical way to locate the root of a current pattern is to follow the emotional thread.

Identify a situation in your present life that triggers a reaction disproportionate to what's actually happening. Mild feedback that flattens you for three days. A cancelled plan your brain immediately turns into a narrative about being unwanted. An opportunity that should feel exciting but instead produces a specific, cold kind of dread.

The disproportionate reaction is the signal. It means the current situation has snagged on something older.

Following the thread looks like this: notice the feeling, name it as specifically as you can — not just "bad" but "humiliated" or "invisible" or "not enough" — then ask, gently: when have I felt exactly this before? Not the most recent time. The earliest you can reach.

You're not necessarily hunting for a single traumatic event. More often you'll find a texture — a recurring dynamic, a type of relationship that produced this particular feeling again and again. That texture is the root system of the current belief.

Your History Is Not Your Destination

Research in epigenetics has established something genuinely hopeful: your genes are not a fixed script. They're closer to a set of possibilities. Which ones get expressed depends significantly on your environment — including the environment created by your beliefs, your stress levels, your relationships, and your daily habits.

The patterns you developed were activated by a particular environment. A new environment can influence them.

The conclusions your eight-year-old self drew about the world? They can be examined, challenged, and replaced with something more accurate. The same brain that formed those early beliefs is fully capable of forming better ones — given new information and a new environment.

Your history is where you started. It is not where you end up.

And the belief that's been quietly running your life? It was never really yours to begin with.

This is where the real work starts. Rewired walks you through the process of tracing your limiting beliefs to their roots — and replacing them with something that's actually true.

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The Real Reason You Keep Getting in Your Own Way (It’s Not What You Think)

You've asked yourself the question. Probably more than once.

If I genuinely want this — and I do, I really do — why do I keep derailing myself at the exact moment it starts to matter?

It's a fair question. And the honest answer isn't the one most people expect.

You're not self-sabotaging because something is wrong with you. You're doing it because you don't just want one thing. You want growth, yes. But you also want safety. Predictability. The quiet reassurance that you're doing reasonably well compared to the people around you. And those needs don't disappear just because you've decided to level up. They go underground. They negotiate with your ambitions behind the scenes. And when they feel threatened enough — they win. Every time.

The Comfort-Growth Paradox

Here's something that rarely gets said plainly: your brain was not optimised for happiness. It was optimised for survival. And for most of human history, survival looked a lot like staying close to the familiar and avoiding anything that carried meaningful risk.

This creates a real structural tension for anyone trying to build something new.

Growth, by definition, means moving toward the unfamiliar. It means tolerating uncertainty and accepting that the outcome isn't guaranteed. Your brain registers all of that as potential threat. Not catastrophic, necessarily — but enough to make the couch feel more sensible than the gym at six in the morning. Enough to make "I'll start Monday" feel like a considered decision rather than an avoidance move.

The comfort zone isn't a character flaw. It's a built-in feature of the nervous system. Recognising that removes the shame from the equation — and lets you engage with what's actually going on.

The Two Needs That Pull Hardest

Researchers working in motivational theory have identified a core set of human needs behind virtually every behaviour, however counterproductive it looks from the outside. Two of them generate the most friction for people trying to build something new.

Certainty is the need to know what's coming — to have ground under your feet that isn't going to shift. A new direction threatens this directly. You don't know if it'll work. You don't know who you'll be on the other side. You don't know what you'll lose. The moment a growth goal starts to feel more uncertain than comfortable, the certainty need kicks in and starts quietly lobbying for the status quo.

Significance is the need to feel that you matter — that you're valued, that you're doing well in the eyes of people whose opinions count. Growth can actually threaten this in ways that aren't immediately obvious. What happens if you try publicly and fail publicly? What happens if you succeed and your old relationships no longer quite fit? The significance need is often what generates the most sophisticated, hardest-to-spot forms of self-sabotage.

The Avoidance Move That Looks Like Responsibility

There's a distinction worth knowing: toward moves versus away moves.

Toward moves are actions taken in the direction of your values. Things you do because they reflect who you genuinely want to become. Away moves are actions taken to escape discomfort — things you do not because they're aligned with your values, but because they reduce the immediate anxiety of sitting with something difficult.

The catch? Away moves often look completely reasonable. Doing more research before starting. Waiting until the timing is a little better. Helping everyone else before turning to your own project. These don't look like avoidance — they can pass convincingly for responsibility and good judgement.

The question that separates them is always the same: am I doing this because it genuinely serves my values, or because it helps me avoid the discomfort of uncertainty? It's an uncomfortable question. It's also the one that changes everything.

The Part Nobody Talks About

Every meaningful shift in identity involves a genuine loss. The version of you that stayed small to stay safe, that kept the peace, that never asked for too much — that version wasn't only a bundle of limitations. It was familiar. It was yours. It had a recognisable tribe and a coherent story about who you are.

Letting it go is a real loss. And if you skip that part — if you hustle straight into the new version without pausing to acknowledge what you're leaving behind — the old self tends to pull back hard. Not to maliciously sabotage you. Just because nobody likes to be abandoned without acknowledgment.

You don't have to mourn indefinitely. But you do have to notice. Give the old version its due. Then move.

The ceiling you keep hitting isn't made of glass. It's made of two legitimate needs that were never introduced to each other. Once you can see them both clearly — the one pushing forward and the one pulling back — you finally have something to actually work with.

That's exactly what Rewired is about.

Ready to stop wondering why — and start actually moving? Rewired gives you the full picture on the conflict driving your self-sabotage, and the practical tools to finally resolve it.

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You Don’t Have a Mindset Problem. You Have a Hardware Problem.

Most people approach personal growth the way a frustrated user approaches a glitchy app: reload it, reinstall it, find a better version.

They assume the problem is software — the wrong strategy, the wrong framework, the wrong morning routine. Sometimes a new approach works, for a while. But when it doesn't — when the insight was real, the motivation was genuine, and nothing actually changed — people land on a punishing conclusion:

*There must be something fundamentally wrong with me.*

There isn't. But there is something worth understanding.

**Your Nervous System Has Two Modes**

At any given moment, your body is operating in one of two states.

The first is a protective state — fight-or-flight — where your system mobilises everything to manage a perceived threat. Heart rate up. Breathing shallow. Attention locked onto the most immediate horizon. Creativity and long-range thinking? Offline.

The second is a growth state — where the body feels safe enough to repair, restore, and rewire. This is where neuroplasticity — your brain's capacity to form new connections and update old patterns — actually runs at full capacity.

Here's what self-help almost never tells you: neuroplasticity dials back considerably when you're stressed, exhausted, or running on elevated cortisol. And for that to happen your nervous system needs to feel safe — not spa-weekend safe, not everything-is-perfect safe, just... not under attack safe. There's a difference.

If your baseline is chronic tension — that permanent sense of needing to be braced for something to go sideways — your system is spending its resources on defence, not development. It's like trying to have a calm conversation in a room where an alarm is going off. You can try. But good luck actually hearing anything.

**The Experiment That Changed Everything**

Marcus had been grinding for three years. Mid-level manager. Two kids. A mortgage. A side project he'd been "almost ready to launch" for longer than he could admit. On paper, fine. Inside — a car engine with the temperature gauge permanently in the red.

A friend gave him a strange suggestion: 72 hours of deliberately doing nothing useful. No planning. No self-improvement content. Sleep when tired. Walk slowly, without headphones. Eat actual meals without a podcast running.

Marcus thought it sounded irresponsible. He tried it anyway, mostly because he was desperate enough.

By hour 48, something shifted. The noise in his head quietened — not to silence, but to something manageable. The problems were still there. But they no longer felt like emergencies requiring immediate resolution. He launched his side project the following week — not because anything had changed externally, but because his nervous system had finally stopped screaming long enough for him to move.

The lesson wasn't "take more breaks." It was that he'd been treating his body like a machine that should perform regardless of conditions. Once he stopped doing that, the capacity he'd been trying to force through willpower was already there — just waiting for room to operate.

**Your Body Knows Before Your Mind Does**

Think about the last time you agreed to something and immediately felt a drop in your stomach. Or said yes to a plan while your shoulders quietly crept toward your ears. That's not a random physical reaction. Your body clocked something before your brain had time to write a whole paragraph about it.

Limiting beliefs aren't just stored in your thoughts. They're stored in your body — in chronic tension patterns, habitual postures, persistent tightness in specific places. You can fully understand something up here — like, intellectually get it — and still feel the old version of yourself sitting heavy somewhere around your sternum, not budging.

It's why people leave a seminar feeling completely transformed and then... don't change. The insight was real. But it landed on a system that wasn't ready to receive it.

**The First Reset Isn't a Strategy. It's Safety.**

Before belief work. Before habit architecture. Before any technique or framework — the first order of business is giving your nervous system a genuine reason to lower the alarm.

Because the belief that you are fundamentally broken? That's a stressor too. And releasing it is often the very first reset your system needs.

*Rewired* shows you how to do exactly that — starting with the biology, so every strategy that follows actually has somewhere to land.

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Why Your Body Is Secretly Sabotaging You (And It’s Not Your Fault)

You've done everything right.

You read the books. You know what needs to happen. You can map out the plan in your sleep. And yet, when the moment arrives — when it's time to send the pitch, start the project, have the conversation — something tightens. You hesitate. You reach for your phone. You sleep on it one more night.

Then you wake up and wonder what the hell is wrong with you.

Here's the truth: nothing is wrong with you. But something very specific is *happening* to you — and once you understand it, you'll never look at self-sabotage the same way again.

**Your Brain Has One Job — And Growth Isn't It**

Deep inside your brain sits a small cluster of neurons whose entire purpose is to keep you alive. It scans your environment constantly, hunting for threats. And the moment it spots one — real or imagined — it floods your system with stress hormones and pulls the emergency brake on your rational thinking.

Which, fine, makes total sense if something is genuinely trying to eat you. Less useful when the thing your brain has decided is dangerous is a Slack message you've been avoiding for four days.

The problem? Your brain doesn't reliably distinguish between physical danger and emotional risk. Rejection, failure, being seen and judged — these register in your nervous system as genuinely threatening. Your heart rate climbs. Your thinking narrows. The parts of your brain responsible for creativity and long-range planning go quiet.

There's actually a name for it — amygdala hijack — but you don't need the term, you just need to recognise the feeling. Going completely blank under pressure. Making a decision you couldn't explain rationally afterward. That wasn't weakness. That was your survival system doing exactly what it was designed to do.

**The Story That Never Resolves**

Most people carry a chronic, low-level stress they've never named. Something like *I'm not good enough* or *people like me don't get to have that kind of life.*

A real threat appears, stress hormones spike, the threat resolves, and stress hormones drop. That's the healthy rhythm. But a belief? A belief never resolves. It travels everywhere with you. So your body stays braced, your thinking stays clouded, and your nervous system keeps treating growth like an incoming attack.

Try telling yourself a new story when every cell in your body is still running the old emergency broadcast. It doesn't stick. It can't.

This is why thinking your way out doesn't work.

**Self-Sabotage Is a Protection Strategy**

Here's the reframe that changes everything: self-sabotage isn't weakness. It isn't stupidity. In almost every case, it's a survival skill that used to work brilliantly — and never got the memo that the original threat has long since passed.

The patterns keeping you stuck today? They were strokes of genius when you were younger and had fewer options. Shrinking yourself, staying quiet, avoiding risk — these kept you safe, connected, functional. Your nervous system learned them well.

The work isn't to shame yourself out of those patterns. It's to understand them thoroughly enough to offer something better.

**You're Not Running Out of Willpower — You're Running Old Software**

The ceiling isn't some mysterious force. It's just old programming — stuff your system learned years ago and never bothered to update because, honestly, why would it?

Nothing is actually wrong with you. You're just carrying around a load of code that made sense once and doesn't anymore — and nobody ever showed you how to update it.

That's exactly what *Rewired* is about.

*Ready to stop fighting yourself and start actually moving?* **Rewired** walks you through the neuroscience-based method for breaking the invisible ceiling — starting with the body, where the patterns actually live.

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Positive thinking tips – Game-Changing Mindset Shifts That Actually Work

Let's get real about positive thinking. Not the fluffy, surface-level stuff you've heard a million times, but practical, powerful strategies that can genuinely transform your daily life. I'm talking about methods that work when life gets messy, when things don't go as planned, and especially when you need them most.

First up: The Power of Strategic Reframing
Here's something most people miss about positive thinking - it's not about ignoring problems. It's about approaching them differently. Instead of saying "This is terrible," try "What's this teaching me?" This isn't just word play; it's about rewiring your brain's response to challenges. When you hit a roadblock, pause and ask yourself: "How could this actually be working in my favor?" Sometimes, your biggest setbacks are secretly setting you up for incredible comebacks.

The 90-Second Game Changer
Did you know that most negative emotional responses only last about 90 seconds in your body? Here's the game: When something triggers negative thoughts, acknowledge them, but time them. For 90 seconds, feel everything. Then, make a conscious choice about what happens next. This puts you back in the driver's seat of your emotional response.

The Gratitude Upgrade
Now, I know you've heard about gratitude journals, but let's kick it up a notch. Instead of just listing what you're thankful for, add why it matters and how it impacts your future. For example, don't just write "I'm grateful for my morning coffee." Add "because it gives me quiet time to plan my day, which helps me stay focused and achieve my goals." See the difference? You're not just counting blessings; you're connecting them to your growth.

The Environment Effect
Here's something powerful: Your physical space shapes your mental space. Want better thoughts? Upgrade your surroundings. Clear your desk, organize your digital files, create a peaceful corner in your home. When your external world feels organized and positive, your internal world tends to follow suit.

The Future Self Technique
Try this: Write a letter from your future self, one year from now, thanking your present self for specific actions you're taking today. This isn't just visualization - it's about creating a bridge between who you are and who you're becoming. Make it detailed, make it real, and read it when things get tough.

The Power Pause Practice
In our non-stop world, we rarely hit pause. But here's the thing: Sometimes the most positive thing you can do is stop. Take three deep breaths before responding to that triggering email. Wait 24 hours before making big decisions. These small pauses prevent reactive thinking and promote positive choices.

The Connection Strategy
Positive thinking flourishes in good company. Build what I call your "Positivity Squad" - people who elevate your thinking and challenge you to grow. And here's the key: Be that person for others too. When you lift others up, you naturally rise.

The Action Anchor
Here's a game-changer: Attach positive thoughts to specific actions. When you walk through a doorway, think "I'm walking into opportunities." When you turn on your computer, think "I'm creating value today." These small mental habits add up to major mindset shifts.

The Reality Check Reset
Sometimes, things just suck. And that's okay. Positive thinking isn't about fake happiness. It's about knowing that tough times are temporary and finding strength in that knowledge. Give yourself permission to feel down, but don't unpack and live there.

The Growth Loop
Start tracking your wins, no matter how small. Daily progress notes create a positive feedback loop in your brain. When you regularly acknowledge your progress, you're more likely to spot opportunities for more wins.

Remember This
Positive thinking isn't a destination - it's a practice. Some days you'll nail it, others you'll struggle. That's not just okay, it's normal. The goal isn't perfection; it's progress.

Your Next Step
Start with one of these strategies - just one. Master it, make it yours, then add another. Small, consistent steps create lasting change. Your mind is incredibly powerful, and learning to direct it positively might be the most important skill you'll ever develop.

How to Develop a More Critical Thinking Mindset

It has been said that the ability to think critically is one of the most essential skills a person can have. After all, critical thinking enables you to see beyond the surface of things, question what you are told, and think for yourself.

Yet, despite its importance, many people do not know how to develop a more critical thinking mindset. This is partly because we are not taught how to think critically in school. Instead, we are usually taught to regurgitate information and follow directions. As a result, we often blindly follow authority figures and accept information at face value without questioning it.

Fortunately, you can take some simple steps to start developing a more critical thinking mindset. By learning to question information and think for yourself, you can make better decisions, solve problems more effectively, and find tremendous success and happiness in life.

Question Everything

The first step is to question everything. When you encounter a new piece of information, take the time to consider it carefully before accepting it as accurate. Ask where this information came from. Is it reliable? Does it make sense? What are the alternative explanations?

Think for Yourself

Don't blindly accept what others tell you. Instead, learn to think for yourself and reach your own conclusions. This doesn't mean that you should always distrust authority figures, but it does mean that you should be willing to consider different viewpoints and make up your own mind about what is true.

Be Open-Minded

If you want to think critically, you need to be open-minded. This means being willing to consider new ideas and perspectives, even if they differ from yours. It also means being ready to change your mind if evidence suggests you are wrong.

Be Skeptical

Skepticism is required in critical thinking. When evaluating a claim, examine it closely and look for flaws or inconsistencies. Don't accept something as accurate just because it sounds good or because someone else says it is true. Instead, demand evidence and judge for yourself whether the evidence is convincing.

Be Analytical

Critical thinking requires analysis, breaking down a problem or issue into smaller parts, and sifting through each piece. When encountering a complex problem, take the time to analyze it before trying to solve it. Consider all of the factors involved and identify the key issues. Only then will you be able to find an effective solution.

Be Creative

Creativity is also essential for critical thinking. When faced with a problem, don't just accept the first solution that comes to mind. Instead, brainstorm different possibilities and explore different options. Think about the problem from a new perspective and devise creative solutions others may have overlooked.

Critical thinking is a vital skill that everyone should learn. You can develop a more critical thinking mindset by taking the time to question information, think for yourself, and be open-minded and analytical. This will lead to better decisions, improved problem-solving skills, and success and happiness in life.

7 Common Forms of Success

7 Common Forms of Success

If you ask five different people their idea of success, you will likely get five different answers. This is because everyone's version of success is different.

According to the dictionary, success is defined as accomplishing an aim, purpose, or objective. You are likely successful when you do a set of actions that result in achieving a goal. Learning how everyone identifies success can help you understand yourself better to unlock more opportunities and achieve everything you want in life.

Here are seven forms of success to achieve more in life.

Inner Success

Your inner success includes your emotional success – for example, how you are feeling on the inside such as your state of mind, self-esteem, and overall outlook in life. Generally, inner success means having a more positive outlook on life and truly believing in your abilities.

Physical Success

This is about how your body feels overall – including illness, disease, fitness, energy levels, and physical appearance. Taking care of your physical self will ensure and enhance every other success you experience.

Family Success

Building strong family relationships and giving your family a safe place to be with you is a very difficult process that takes time and commitment to make happen. However, if you know how you want your family to look and how you want them to feel, and you know the steps to make it happen, you will succeed.

Career Success

Knowing what you want to do in your life – whether it’s a job, a business, or something else entirely – is very important to your overall life success. Money comes into career success, of course, but it’s more about feeling that what you do contributes to how you want to be known. Knowing what you want here and ensuring you follow a plan to achieve the desired results is essential.

Material Success

This means things or possessions, such as having cars, a house, clothes, and jewelry – whatever it is that you believe defines your success materially. It might be that you value minimalism or that you want the 10,000 square foot mansion. Of course, nothing you want is wrong. But you have to know what it is and ensure it matches your principles, morals, and values before you embark on achieving it.

Impact Success

When you know what type of impact you want to have on your environment and those around you, you’ll be much more likely to achieve it. For example, perhaps you’ve determined that to be truly satisfied in life, you want to empower and serve others in a specific way. Once you accomplish that specificity, you’ve achieved the impact success you desire.

Commercial or Economic Success

Some folks feel successful when they have achieved a certain amount of economic success, defined by what you see as the measure. So, if you believe having $2.5 million invested in stocks, a paid-off three thousand square foot house, and the ability to see any doctor in the world as success, then that’s how it should be defined for you.

Success is personal to you and can include one or more of these categories. The more you understand these different types of success, the easier it is to achieve happiness as you unlock key information about yourself. Achieving success is not about matching your friends' or families' ideas. It's about what you enjoy, love, and wish to achieve.

Never Fear the Competition

Never Fear the Competition

There’s sometimes a mindset that if there’s competition in a field, it’s a bad thing and you should worry if there is. But this is a wrong mindset. Competition is good for you and it’s good for your business.

If you’re building a business, especially online, you should never fear the competition. When there’s competition in any niche, it only means that there’s an audience for that product or service.

It means there’s potential for your business to grow just like your competitor’s has. If there’s no competition, it means it’s either a new field or, it means there’s no market for it and past endeavors may have failed.

When there’s competition in an area you’re interested in, it means that someone else has opened the door for your business. An audience has already been introduced to a similar service or product.

This is considered a “warm customer” versus a “cold customer” which is someone who’s never had any introduction or experience to the service or product so they’re a harder sell.

Instead of fearing the competition, network with them. Doing this is a way for you to make more money and it can also help establish your business. You can promote each other and both of you win.

By joining hands with the competition, you’ll increase your knowledge by learning from their experience or methods. Don’t be afraid that they’re going to take all the customers. There are plenty of people who’ll want what you’re offering and will choose you over the competition – or buy from many of you.

When you learn from or join with your competition, you create a kind of professional courtesy, and even if they’re selling the same product that you are, you’ll both still benefit from cross promoting and other ventures.

For example, you might decide to work together to create a product. Or you might offer something like two courses that complement each other. Sometimes working with the competition can open doors for you to have access to tools that you wouldn’t normally be able to use without their help.

Working with a competitor can increase your business opportunities rather than limiting them. Plus, in the process, you may be able to learn things from them that you decide to implement in your own business.

One thing that some entrepreneurs get caught up in is comparing themselves to the competition. They then fear that their business will fall short, and they’ll end up not doing as well financially or not being as successful.

But customers don’t always choose a business with the same criteria you’re using to compare yourself. Each person has a different preference and there will be plenty who’ll choose your business over the competitors’ - even if the product or service has no difference in quality or value.

5 Little-Known Ways to Fool Your Mind and Gear It Towards Success

5 Little-Known Ways to Fool Your Mind and Gear It Towards Success

As ironic as it seems, most people would succeed in their endeavors if they’d only get out of their own way.
Despite their desire for success, they usually engage in activities which detract them from their goals - because their mindset is not geared for success.

Old negative beliefs linger around and fester in their mind when they’re trying to progress. These detrimental thoughts play havoc with their moods and discourage them.
In this article, we’ll look at 5 ways to reframe your thoughts so that you don’t sabotage your success.

1.Telling yourself you deserve success

The brutal truth is that there are many people with less education and abilities than you who have gone on to accumulate immense wealth.

Yet, so many people falsely believe that they need a degree, capital, connections and an endless list of conditions to be in their favor before they have a fighting chance of success.
Tell yourself that you’re worthy of success. There’s no reason why you can’t succeed if you give it your best. Ignore all other excuses.

2.You have a choice

Work is tiring. There’s just no denying that.
In his book Deep Work, author Cal Newport said, “This is an economy that will reward people who are comfortable doing hard concentration on things that matter.”
You can’t get away from the fact that you’ll be required to work hard in order to succeed. Even if you work smart, you still have to diligently expend mental energy and effort working on your goals.

Most people will feel an aversion to the work because it’s boring and tiring. So what do they do?
They procrastinate. To avoid this problem, you must understand that you have a choice. Tell yourself, “I get to do this work because my goals matter!”

When you realize that you are choosing to do the work, you overcome the mental hurdle where you feel like your arm is being twisted and you NEED to work. It’s a simple way to reframe your thoughts, but it makes a world of difference.

3.“It’s just 5 minutes!”

Another useful technique to overcome procrastination is to trick your mind into thinking that you’re not going to be tortured. Procrastination is actually a sign of your mind protecting you.
It views the work you need to do as uncomfortable and energy-consuming. Your mind is right… and it will conjure up very convincing excuses to get you to procrastinate the work so you spare yourself the ‘pain’.

One easy way to overcome this problem is to tell yourself that you’ll just do the work for 5 minutes. This is a short enough duration for it not to be laborious. Your mind will be less likely to resist.

What’s amazing is that once you start working, all resistance will disappear. You always face the most opposition from your mind BEFORE you begin the task… but once you start and get into the flow of things, generally, you’ll keep going.

4.Aim big

Set huge goals that you have no idea how to achieve. You must think big to win big.
Like former racing car driver, Mario Andretti, once said, “If everything seems under control, you're not going fast enough.”
Forget about being realistic. Even you don’t know what’s possible or what you’re capable of. So don’t hold back.

If your goals don’t scare you a little, they aren’t big enough. Don’t panic and clutch your pearls trying to figure out how you’ll achieve them. Just set big goals for now.
Once that is done, you can chunk down the big goals into smaller goals until you have manageable targets to meet. Then it’s just a matter of hitting one target after another and another until you reach your big goal.

It will take you time and effort no doubt, but you’ll get there. What’s most important is that you gave yourself the chance to set a lofty goal that you can ultimately reach.

5.It’s all a game

Winners in life always treat the process as a game. While failure is bitter, they don’t use it to judge themselves. They understand that you may win today and lose tomorrow.
What matters is that you play the game… and if you keep at it long enough, you’ll get better at it and eventually win. Even teenage boys know that when you repeatedly play the same video game, you’ll get better at it and finally beat the ‘big boss’ in the end.

In the same vein, when you don’t internalize failure or allow yourself to get too attached to the outcome, you’ll dare to do more and challenge yourself.

Failure and success will both serve as feedback for you. Treat the process likes a game where you just want to keep going and winning, no matter how many times you lose. With this mindset and approach, the sky is the limit and you’ll achieve unimaginable success in time to come.

3 Negative Beliefs That Hold Entrepreneurs Back

3 Negative Beliefs That Hold Entrepreneurs Back

“The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease for ever to be able to do it.” - J. M. Barrie, Peter Pan

Our lives are a reflection of our beliefs. Most of us know this, and yet, we cling on to old negative beliefs - even when they hold us back.
Discarding them and creating new beliefs seems to be a Herculean task.
These beliefs (which are usually assumptions and misconceptions) color our world views and justify our actions.

Yet, if we stopped to think about it and ask ourselves, “Where did we get these beliefs from?” … we’d realize that most of them were ingrained in us by our parents, teachers and other ‘well-meaning and sensible’ adults when we were young.

In most cases, these self-limiting and defeatist beliefs will impede your progress when you decide to become an entrepreneur. You’ll be setting yourself up for failure from the get-go.
Let’s look at some of the most common beliefs that are injurious to your goals…

1.Money makes money

This is probably the biggest fallacy of the lot. This misconception creates a catch-22 situation. You want to get into business to improve your financial standing… but you need money to get into business - and that’s money you don’t currently have.
So you’re doomed.

But is this reasoning valid? Do you really need money to start?
A quick look at some of the biggest business successes on the planet will show you that most of them invariably began from humble beginnings. They started off small and slowly built their way up.

In the same vein, nothing is stopping you from starting off small and climbing the ladder of business success. It’s resourcefulness and not resources that you need.
Do not count yourself out just because you lack the finances. Rest assured that enthusiasm, confidence, passion and hard work will help you find the resources you need and you’ll be able to employ them to forward your business.

2.Following instead of leading

The world loves a winner and tends to put them up on pedestals. The media gives them coverage. Books are written about them and so on.
Parents, teachers, etc. often tell us to model successful people and read biographies. The goal is to be like these larger than life people who define the epitome of success.
Millions of people dream of being the next Michael Jordan or the next Elon Musk. Or the next pop star… and so on.
And yet, if you asked Michael Jordan who he wanted to be, he’d most probably say that he wanted to be Michael Jordan.

Herein lies a contradiction – the leaders of the world (whichever field they may be in) are almost always trailblazers who march to the beat of their own drum. They’re so focused on being the best they can be that they don’t have time to try and be like someone else.
Using a role model to inspire you is a start… but if you want to truly see success, you’ll need to lead rather than follow. You’ll need to put yourself in the limelight and be willing to be seen by the masses, rather than quietly skulking in the shadows.
You’ll get the accolades and recognition, but you’ll also get brickbats and hate. This is par for the course. Just remember, leaders lead. You must lead if you want massive success.

3.Expecting overnight success

A lack of patience has sounded the death knell on more goals/dreams than any other cause.
The current society we live in encourages impatience.
Instant notifications, text messaging, microwaves, instant meals, entire 22-episode seasons of Netflix shows presented all at once, etc. have made us believe that anything can be gotten fast.

We want results and we want them now. Preferably yesterday.
Life, however, has quite a different set up. Any worthy goal will take you time to achieve. Usually, it will take you longer than you believe.
Like Jeff Bezos said, “All overnight success takes about 10 years.”
You can’t shrink the journey to fit into a 90-minute Hollywood movie. There is no rousing soundtrack to inspire you. Success is an ugly, dirty fight where you’ll have to claw your way to the top.

It has ALWAYS been that way.

So, if you start on an entrepreneurial journey and are expecting overnight riches without struggle, you’ll be in for a rude shock. It’s just a matter of time before you discover pitfalls, hurdles, pain, struggles and a myriad of other problems that you’ll need to constantly overcome.

You may wonder, “Why is this happening to me? Why is it so hard?”
The truth is that it doesn’t just happen to you. It happens to every entrepreneur who wishes to level up. This is the turbulence you need to get past until you reach cruising altitude.
And it will take you time. So, if you lack patience, it’s time to tell yourself that you’re in for the long haul.
Now that you’re aware of these 3 negative beliefs, you can take steps to fix them and be on your way to success.

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