Overcome the Number One Fear
The fear is the biggest barrier in your success.
You might have skills, capabilities to reach there but your fear can be the only reason to stop you from going after what you truly desire. They can give rise to negative emotions like your chances of success are very low that you don’t even try.
Fears are complex and cunning, they can be deep-seated and they are often sub conscious, which means the state of being unaware of what holding you back.
Certain practical exercises to help you get beyond it so you can pursue and achieve your goals.
Understand your triggers.
Is there is something obvious that you know you have fear of? Like the sight of a snake on a trail or of darkness? Figure out everything that triggers your fear and try to understand it because more you know and try to understand better are chances to face it.
Question the power the fear holds over you
Does your fear holds you back from keep moving and growing. Is it the reason that you don’t go to family functions or you won’t get on a plane? If anything like this happens to you then figure out what power your fear have over your mind and behavior. Learn to fight from your fears as you hold the biggest power in you, don’t think too much. Learn to face the situations as you are not alone, many people have several fears but if you learn to conquer over them, then you might become the motivation for others.
Identify false beliefs
Many fears are based in false beliefs or catastrophic thinking. It may be based on your ancestors or false society beliefs. Like when you see a spider a sudden thought came that spider may harm you and then you will die. Identify these patterns and starts questioning them. Do some online research and understand the difference in actual and perceived risk. Start re- structuring your thoughts to not engage in catastrophic thinking.
Learn relaxation techniques. When your body experiences fear, lots of triggers ready your body for a “fight-or-flight” action response. Learn to override this response by counteracting with relaxation techniques. Relaxation tells your body that there is no danger and that you are safe. Relaxation can also help you cope with other stress and anxiety in your life.
Try deep breathing exercises.
Focus on your breath, and start counting each breath: four seconds inhale, then four seconds exhale. Once this is comfortable, elongate your breath to six seconds.
Learn relaxation techniques. One way to do this is to clench all the muscles in your body for three seconds, then relax them. Do this two or three times to melt stress throughout your body. Relaxation will tell your body that there is no danger and help you to cope with stress and anxiety in your life.
Use your senses
One of the most reliable way to relieve anxiety is be engaging your one or more senses—sight, sound, taste, smell, touch—or through movement. But still it may work for you or may be not but do some experimenting to discover what works best for you.
Challenge negative thoughts about your phobia
When you have a phobia, you tend to overestimate the situations and start overthinking like how bad it would be if you are exposed to it or underestimate your ability to cope. These negative thoughts that fuel your phobias are usually negative and unrealistic. By writing your negative thoughts when confronted by phobia, you can begin to challenge these unhelpful ways of thinking.
Start seeing fear as an opportunity
Fear can also be a tool to help us identify problems and solve them effectively. It’s a red flag that warns us when something needs attention.
When you feel fear of something unfamiliar, take it as a sign that you need to get to know a person or situation better. If you feel a flash of fear then its an opportunity to make a plan of action to be prepared, it can be rehearsing a play or practicing a speech.
Overcoming the fear and anxiety will give you the 'spare capacity' in life to focus on what you really want to be and do. Though it takes efforts and might be little time but imagine the rewards you will be getting afterwards.
Success is Attitude too
If you want to achieve your greatest potential in your life then one of the most important step is to monitor your attitude and its impact on your performance, your relationships and everyone around you. It’s difficult to be happy and content professionally (not to mention personally) if you’re constantly overworked and stressed out. But there’s an easy way to become both happier and more successful quickly. It’s as simple as this: change your attitude.
Here are some of the ways that the right attitude can make you more successful:
Self-Motivation through Discovering Your Motives
Discover what motivates you in a positive way to take action to change your life. Basic motives include love, self-preservation, anger, financial gain and fear. Self-motivation requires enthusiasm, a positive outlook towards life, a positive physiology and a belief in yourself and your God-given potential.
The Power of Visualization
Studies have shown that peak performers use affirmations and visualizations either consciously or subconsciously to enhance and focus on their skills. Nelson Mandela has written extensively on how visualization helped him maintain a positive attitude while being imprisoned for 27 years. “I thought continually of the day when I would walk free. I fantasized about what I would like to do,” he wrote in his autobiography. Visualization works well to improve attitude.
Exercising Will Help Keep You Motivated
One of the best ways to move to a more positive and motivated frame of mind is to exercise. A regular exercise routine can provide relatively quick positive feedback in the form of not only losing weight or muscle development but brings a sense of doing something positive for yourself.
Create positive impressions.
It is no secret that life seems to reward us most when we approach the world with a positive attitude. You never get a second chance to make a first impression. It probably comes as no surprise, but when you have a good attitude, you’re more likely to present yourself to others in a positive light.
Good impressions can lead to many potential benefits. Employers may be more likely to choose you as a new hire. Co-workers, colleagues, and potential partners will be more inclined to work with you.
A good attitude creates positive first impressions, which are the gateway to developing deeper personal and professional connections. Ultimately, this can create in-roads in business, so that you can forge positive, lasting relationships with employers, colleagues, and potential partners.
Remember: when opportunity knocks, there’s someone doing the knocking. You want people to think of you when opportunities arise, and your connections are the key to making this happen.
Gain more confidence.
If you want to be more confident then there are variety of things that can help you from visualization to improving your posture to dressing nicely for success. However, none of these exercises will be very effective without the right attitude.
When you have a good attitude then you likely to put efforts for self-improvement exercises and continue getting stronger. In short, a positive outlook will make it possible to keep getting better, and this positive progress can boost your confidence big time in the long term.
You’ll be happier.
By adopting the right attitude, you stand to gain in so many ways, but perhaps the most profound is that it will make you feel happier. When you feel happier, things seem far more achievable in life. Day in and day out, they can have a profound effect on your career -- and life.
So, consider shifting to an attitude of gratitude and apply it to your work moving forward. You have everything to gain!
Qualities of a winner
In the era of fierce competition when everyone wants to know the secret formula of success- either individually or in team or as an organization. What is the real secret? Why some people reach at the top, be it in business, sport, or entertainment?
What are the qualities that separate such winners from others? These are-
This means knowing what you want to achieve. This is a critical quality of a winner. When Federer started playing tennis he had one goal and that was to win six grand slams just like his childhood heroes Stefan Edberg and Boris Becker respectively. This is not a bad goal and he has surpassed that goal by nearly 3 times. The key is he was absolutely clear on what he wanted to achieve. The only way to be self- directed is to set goals for every area of your life including personal, career, family and financial. Once you ignite the flames of your potential you can blast through any setbacks.
Self-discipline is the most important one because of his only you can follow other disciplines. The greatest people of the world practiced it. You can develop it too if you have a burning desire inside you to achieve something with your life. You cannot build it if you are unclear of the blueprint of what you want your future to look like.
You are the boss of your career. In the last you are the winner or you are the loser and it’s your choice what you want to be. You cannot blame any situation or person for it. Think like you are running a company with one employee yourself and to keep going you need to take its responsibility, upgrade your skills, build your brand (there are more avenues than ever to achieve this), and network relentlessly. You also should develop the habit of asking for what you want. Only if you ask you can get.
Winners know themselves and are honest with themselves. They figure out the balance between training harder and taking some time to recover. They regularly push themselves to the limit but also allow themselves to recover appropriately.
Winners aim and aspire for the stars. They hold a vision for themselves and create stretching goals. Having the drive, motivation and dedication to continuously focus take them to achieve their ambition and reach their destination.
Taking full advantage of every opportunity that comes on your way must be a priority if you want to be a winner. You don’t have fewer opportunities, only the way to look at them differs from person to person. The Winners see an opportunity and grasp it with both hands and make full use of the situation or task. The winners don’t take opportunities for granted and are grateful for the opportunities that have come about, seeking to make the most of their situation.
Ego can be a destructive thing. If you are suffering from being too egoistic then you are in battle with yourself. It’s not that you should not be proud of your achievements or there is any harm in flaunting them but one should never forget humility. As Good things happen to good people. Gracious humility leads that path.
Enthusiasm and Passion
Nothing kills momentum and creativity faster than a lackluster spirit. A sour attitude is deadly to just about anything it touches. If we are fortunate enough to have a passion for what we do, it’s a great thing. Many people are not that lucky. So where do we find the energy and enthusiasm to do our work well? We find it in the things that really matter. The smiles and laughter of our children. The support and gratitude of our loved ones for the things we do. Enthusiasm is a powerful tool. It will always reward in increased production, positive leadership, and the building of the desired reputation that opens doors.
Don’t waste time
Time never waits for anyone. The winners know how to make out of every minute; they understand that some things and some people only slow them down on their journey of success. It is always better to eliminate distractions so that you can focus on priorities.
Learn to develop such qualities to be a winner. However this does not means that you will always experience victory, sometimes failures will also come your way but remember you must learn from them and nothing can stop you. Once you fall, make sure you come back much stronger than before.