8 Ways to Overcome Disappointment
Everyone faces disappointments in life. Some disappointments are minor while others can be catastrophic. However, you choose how to manage and overcome your disappointment. You are in charge of your actions and reactions.
Usually, disappointment happens because an outcome we hoped for or expected did not come to fruition. This happens frequently throughout your life so knowing how to overcome your disappointment will help you move on and find happiness.
Wallow and Move On
When something disappointments you, don’t ignore your feelings. It’s okay to be sad and feel frustrated. This happens in all areas of life when your expectations aren’t met. Let yourself feel the emotions but don’t wallow in your disappointment. Let it go and move on after you grieve through it.
Gain Different Perspectives
During your wallowing phase, you may need to get new perspectives by asking for friends’ opinions. Make sure you’re ready to hear the unvarnished truth before you ask. There is no right or wrong here. You just want new perspectives.
Engage in Positive Activities
Once you’re tired of wallowing, start doing things that make you feel good and positive about life. You may want to read a book, listen to uplifting music, watch funny movies, or spend time with people you love.
Detach from The Outcome
If your expectation was not realistic, the outcome was probably inevitable. Detach from the outcome and look at the process that caused the disappointment. You may be able to prevent that same thing from occurring again.
Deal with Your Cognitive Dissonance
Everyone has deeply held convictions that are erroneous. Sometimes disappointments occur when your convictions are challenged. It’s hard to let go of something you thought was true, even when you are faced with the evidence.
Acknowledge the Opportunity for Growth
When you have a situation where an outcome is not what you thought it would be, you have an opportunity to learn something new and grow. When you understand what went wrong, why it went wrong, and what, if anything, you could do differently next time would help you accept the outcome
Do Your Best
All you can do in life is the best you can do based on what you know. If you’re challenging your ideas, learning new ways of thinking, and moving through disappointments in life that’s really all you can do.
Acceptance means that you realize it is what it is, and you can’t undo the past. While something may be disappointing, accepting the facts gives you the opportunity to move on and change plans.
You can overcome disappointment in life and bounce back faster with practice. Set up a contingency plan that will help you overcome disappointment, and you’ll see that you can deal with it in a new way that will ensure your future success and happiness.
How Your Attitude Affects Your Performance
If you struggle to reach optimum performance mentally, physically, and emotionally, it could be your attitude is getting in the way. Studies show a positive correlation between having a positive attitude and performing optimally. In fact, multiple studies back the idea that a positive attitude directly affects performance in a good way while a negative attitude lowers your performance in all ways.
A positive attitude manifests in many ways. It encourages constructive thinking and gives you a more optimistic outlook on life. Plus, the more positive you are, the more energy and motivation you’ll have to see through to reaching all your goals.
Here's some ways to build a more positive attitude.
Successful people expect to be successful in the things that they do. Their positive attitude and their lack of doubt drive them to push forward until their dreams are achieved.
Look for Inspiration
You are literally surrounded with inspiring things. You just have to open your mind to them. The air, the sky, the family walking in the park can all give you inspiration if you just look for it.
Build Your Perseverance
A person with a positive attitude will persevere through the hard times knowing that if they continue on the path, they will succeed. If you tend to get discouraged when things get tough, don't give up. Build your perseverance by focusing on the outcome instead of the small things that try to trip you up.
Open Your Eyes to Opportunities
You know the saying when one door closes, another opens. Just like with inspiration, you are surrounded by opportunities. When you start focusing more on the positive you will begin to notice those opportunities for success.
Never Stop Learning or Taking Action
A positive person won't stop until they are great at what they do. They are lifelong learners, diving headfirst into the topics they need to know to achieve their goals. Once they reach their goal, they continue to stay on top of topics that will better themselves. They don't just learn; they take action on what they learn because action equals results.
Believe in Yourself
When you have a positive attitude, there is no room for self-doubt or negative self-talk. With a positive attitude, you will have faith in yourself and your abilities. You will believe you can achieve the goals you've set for yourself.
Become More Solution-Oriented
A negative person only sees the problem. A positive person seeks a solution. When things don't go as planned, locate the problem then move on to finding the solution. Being solution-oriented will ensure you perform at optimum level.
When you have a positive attitude, you won't see setbacks as failures. You won't give up because something didn't work according to plan. You'll view these setbacks as part of the ongoing process. Oftentimes when facing a setback is when you grow the most.
The more you seek to improve your attitude in all areas of your life, the more success you’ll experience. You’ll be healthier physically, emotionally, and mentally. You'll reach your goals quicker and with bigger success.