Build a personal effective system and you will always win
It's quite surprising to learn that the vast majority of lottery winners end up as broke as when they started. I know this is a shocking statistic, but the vast majority of people who win the lottery end up in worse financial shape than before they won the lottery.
How can this be? Well, it doesn't really matter how many millions of dollars pass through your hands. If you don't know what to do with that money, you're just wasting your time.
It is no surprise that a lot of lottery winners end up getting a lot of money to fund their very worst instincts. For example, if somebody has an addiction problem, getting their hands on millions of dollars or British pounds can make the problem even worse.
In fact, in one notorious case out of the United Kingdom, a person who won several million pounds ended up blowing all that money on cocaine and prostitutes. My point here is that success is not based on the money that enters your life.
Success is all about the change in character that you go through that enables money to not only enter your life but stay in it. For this to happen, you have to adopt the right habits. You can't just hang on to your old way of thinking.
This is where a lot of people who just “lucked into” their great fortune fail. There are many people who lucked into millions of dollars during the initial.com craze of the early 2000's. A lot of those people are struggling now.
There are a lot of people who made millions of dollars when iPhone apps became very popular. A lot of them are bankrupt today. The reason is because they did not develop a personal effectiveness system as far as their money is concerned.
You have to have a system. You can't just expect for things to happen out of raw intuition or hunches. If you try to do things that way, chances are you will end up making the wrong move more often than making the right call. The odds are not in your favor.
You should focus instead on becoming the right kind of person to achieve your dreams. If you are struggling in any way, shape or form in any area of your life, please understand that it's not the fault of other people. It's definitely not the fault of any situation outside of your control.
I know it's unpleasant to hear, but this is one truth that you need to hear: It's all your fault. Take ownership. Understand that you're the only person that can make real changes in your life. You have to take this responsibility.
This is why you need to build a system that increases your personal effectiveness. It's not a series of hacks. It's not a string of hunches. It definitely has nothing to do with being lucky. You have to build a system. This means adopting the right habits, having a clear understanding of what you're doing and, most importantly, having a clear view of the consequences of your decisions.
This is all rooted in the understanding of the power of your ability to make decisions. If you're able to do that, then you're going to be able to call the shots as far as your life is concerned. As you probably already know, the results of your life are a flow from your choices.
Put in another way, change your choices and you change your life. To get a clear practical framework on how to do this, click here.
Every failure is a victory in disguise
I know this is going to be a very unpopular lesson. After all, it's very unwelcome. A lot of people think that failure is something to be avoided. In fact, a lot of people are paranoid about failure. They're so scared of it, they don't even try.
Well, what if I told you that the more you give in to your fear of failure, the more you will fail? Why? Well, the fact that you are not achieving the kind of result that you want for yourself right here, right now, is a form of failure.
You have these big dreams. You have these amazing visions that you have set out for yourself. Every single day that passes without you working towards those big dreams is a waste of day. That is a failure.
Unfortunately, if you allow yourself to remain fearful of failing, you're not going to take action. You're not going to take the necessary, bold sacrifices that you need that will take you closer and closer to victory.
Now you may be thinking, “Okay, I can decide to start today.” Good. But you're terrified of not getting the results that you're expecting. The possibility that something could go wrong freezes you in your tracks.
This really is too bad because every set back or challenge you encounter along the way to victory is a victory in disguise. You have to look at your attitude towards challenges. A lot of people think that they have failed when the things that they assume or expected did not materialize. They think that that is the end of the game.
That's not true. If things don't pan out the way you expected, this means that there are certain problems that you need to solve. These are not problems that are debilitating. These are not problems that indicate that you are dumb or there's something fundamentally wrong with you.
Instead, these are problems that just need solutions. This is an opportunity because the more you solve your problems, the smarter you get. You become more of an expert. You become more capable.
Also, when more challenges appear, you don't fold like a house of cards. Instead, you're able to take it and take it until you achieve success. That is victory.
Understand that each failure or setback is actually an opportunity. You not only learn how to fix problems and see things that you may have not seen before. You may also be able to change your personal character.
Maybe you're impatient. Maybe you're a very short term figure. Maybe you can't see the forest from the trees. Whatever it is you're struggling with, look at the challenges that you face as the solutions to the character issues that may be holding you back.
I know that this is a cold comfort for many people. Still, if you understand that you stand to gain victory by learning more about yourself and pushing yourself, you can position yourself for greater victories in the future.
This is how you can turn your fear of failure into a tremendous opportunity. Even if a failure has happened, you don't have to stay on the floor. You don't have to allow yourself to get knocked down by staying down.
Get back up, spring back up and go for it again and again. Sure you would get knocked down over and over, but guess what? The more you resolve to fix the problem once and for all, the faster you will spring up from the ground and the sooner you will be able to solve that problem.
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Every baby step forward you take is a victory
One of the most common assumptions people make about success is that it's supposed to be big. It's supposed to be something that is bold, dramatic and substantial. They feel that big victories have to be large. In fact, so many people believe that it has to be larger than life itself.
There's a lot of drama in a spectacular victory and it really is sad when people believe this because they end up robbing themselves of the ability to achieve such victories. How come?
Well, when you actually put in the work towards a goal, it may well turn out that your outcomes are incremental. In fact, they can be so incremental that you can't even detect them. They're that small. It's not unusual for people who find themselves in this situation to think that the progress that they're making is simply not worth it.
They say that they're giving up so much and putting in so much time, effort and energy only to have such inconsequential results. The more they think about this, the more discouraged they become. Eventually, it's only a matter of time until they lose hope. They end up quitting.
Let me tell you, the only way to lose in anything in life is to quit and that's precisely the kind of situation you're setting up for yourself when you expect big victories. You should look at this from a different perspective. You should reduce your scale. You should zero in on what you're doing at that precise point in your journey towards ultimate success.
In other words, look at what you're actually achieving. If it's slightly different from where you started, chalk it up to victory. Log it as a big win.
It may not be as grand or dramatic as you had hoped, but it's still a step forward. The bottom line is simple: every baby step forward you take is still a step forward. Let's put it this way, it's better than when you started.
Sure you may only be a couple of inches away from your starting point, but you're still further ahead in the journey. Given enough time, there will be more and more distance. Again, even if you are making progress at the rate of a few inches everyday, you're still distancing yourself from your starting point.
It's only a matter of time until you see a large enough change from where you are with where you started. Don't rob yourself of the emotional urgency you need to keep pushing forward by expecting big things.
Let me tell you, the first time you swing that bat, don't expect a home run. Don't even expect a hit. Just keep swinging that bat. Perfect your form. Eventually, you will hit the ball and you will get better and better. That's how life works.
When you set up impossible conditions for yourself, you become a victim of your own expectations. You expect yourself to bolt out of that gate like a Kentucky Derby winner. Life doesn't work that way. Sometimes, victory is measured in inches. Be happy with that.
Understand that a baby step forward is something you can build on. It's something that is a summary of all the lessons you have learned. You can scale up these lessons. You can build on them. They're building blocks to greater and greater success.
If your ultimate victory involves thousands of miles, you can bet that the hard lessons that you learn in the painful first few inches of that journey will teach you a thing or two about the rest of the skill sets you need to adopt. Things will get better and better.
It's really all about achieving momentum but you have to start. Don't rob yourself of victory by assuming that you are somehow entitled to amazing results the first time around. Sometimes, you have to make several attempts for you to achieve substantial results. Be willing to pay that price. Be willing to go the whole nine yards.
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Achieve more by working purposefully
Have you ever found yourself at work chasing your tail? I'm not talking about literally chasing your backside. I'm talking about small stuff day in, day out, all day, everyday and your life doesn't change.
I'm telling you, even if you're the most efficient email responder in the world, your life is probably not going to change unless, of course, there's something fundamentally important about those emails, you are essentially just doing ministerial stuff on a day to day basis.
The sad reality is that a lot of these things that we find enjoyable are also the most inconsequential stuff. For example, checking your Facebook updates and notifications may be a lot of fun. But if instead of reading your textbook or doing your assignment, you waste your time on social media updates and emails, your life is probably not going to go where you want it to go.
You're probably not going to achieve much of a breakthrough in that midterm or finals exam you're studying for. The same applies to your relationships and this definitely applies to your work. Focus on what's important.
Unfortunately, a lot of people think that they should focus more on what's pleasant. They are under the impression that they should devote a tremendous amount of time on things that are convenient.
Well, here's the problem. If everybody approached life that way, most people will be making minimum wage. If given a choice, most people would rather do the most pleasant and least time consuming stuff. In most cases, most people would rather do things that don't take much effort or energy.
This is human nature. I really can't blame them for thinking this way. After all, it's hard wired into the human condition that we take the path of least resistance.
Unfortunately, if you did that, you're not going to set yourself up for getting much of life's rewards. The reason why lawyers, doctors, medical professionals and top level executives make so much money is because they have to pay a high price and go through quite an ordeal to get the knowledge that they have.
This requires sacrifice, not doing things that are quick, easy and pleasurable in favor of things that are unpleasant, inconvenient and are downright annoying. But if you're able to do that day after day, week after week, month after month, eventually, you get to where you need to go and the rewards come. That's how life works.
Unfortunately, if you refuse to work with a sense of purpose, it's so easy to just continue to do stuff that really doesn't matter. Sure it's a lot of fun to check your email. It's good to know what other people are up to on your Facebook friend list. But at the end of the day, none of that stuff really matters.
What matters is whether you are putting in purposeful work to the big goals in your life and the best way to do this is to work purposefully. In other words, you zero in on the big vision you have for yourself and you allow that vision to give you the inspiration, sense of urgency and the emotional power you need to focus on what you need to do to get to where you need to go.
This can take a long time. This is why a lot of people are not up to the journey. They fold. They lose motivation. What's really happening is that they missed the forest for the trees. They focused only on what's in front of them and they lose sight of the big picture.
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What does your work say about you?
When you meet somebody new, the first thing you probably think about is what their clothes say about them. You might even pay attention to the way they speak, what they choose to talk about and their facial expressions. You might even notice their body language.
Based on all these signals, both verbal and non-verbal, you can kind of come up with some sort of conclusion on what this person's about and what kind of person they are.
This is not unusual. This is how most people read each other. This is how most people make judgments about each other.
If you think that people don't make character judgments, you are sadly mistaken. In fact, you may be setting yourself up for a nasty let down at some point in the future. People do this all the time.
Well, here's the thing. If you think that personal judgments are restricted to the things people wear or how much money people have in the bank or the kind of cars they drive, you are not seeing the big picture. In fact, you are looking at insignificant details.
What if I told you that somebody can be dressed in rags and can still be a future millionaire? What if I told you that somebody can look like the worst kind of bum but still be life's biggest winner in a short period of time?
You might think I'm crazy or unrealistic. Well, think again. The truth is you only need to look at people's work products to see where they're going because the work you produce says volumes about who you are, and most importantly, who you think you are.
The vast majority of people continue to struggle in their professional and financial lives because they think that the results that they produce don't really matter. They think that the work that they do is just one insignificant portion of their total identity.
This is where they screw up. Let's face it, the world doesn't care about your feelings. It doesn't care about your motivation and it seriously disregards your potential. How come?
Everybody's got potential. Everybody's got emotions and feelings. What the world pays attention to are your results. These are the things that you actually do. These are the things that you actually say. These are the things that matter.
When you change your actions, you change your personal reality. Unfortunately, this is the last thing people look at when they try to define their character or try to communicate who they are to the greater world.
They try to do this through fashion. They try to do this with the way they talk. They try to do this with what they choose to talk about.
If you want to be taken seriously and if you want to become a more effective person, focus on your work product. Focus on whether you show up to work on time. Focus on whether you do whatever it takes to achieve the kind of success that you want for yourself.
Everything else is basically fluff. Everything else are basically inconsequential details. Because ultimately, the most honest indication of what you're capable of and where you're headed in life is your work product.
Change that and you change your destiny. To get a practical guide on how to do this on a day to day basis, click here.
Become more effective by taking things more personally
How many times have you been told that you should not take things personally? How many times have you been told that at the end of the day, things don't really matter? Our world is a product of forces we can't control. There's just something out there that's far bigger than us and there's really no point in trying.
Well, if you come across this type of thinking, please understand that the moment you believe them is the moment you rob yourself of personal power. The reason why so many people struggle with success is because they haven't taken their life more personally.
They have an impersonal viewpoint in their life. They look at themselves as pieces of plastic on the surface of a raging sea. They really don't have any control over where they're going. They definitely don't give themselves a sense of control over the way things are turning out in their lives.
They feel that they're just a passenger in the long car journey of their personal lives. This really is too bad because if you think about it, if you want to go to where you want to go, you should at least bother to position yourself in the driver's seat. You should at least take the effort to try to turn that steering wheel to the direction you want your life to go.
Sadly, too many of us have simply given up. Too many of us have simply said that there's really nothing they can do so they take a very impersonal view of their lives. Instead, they focus on the small stuff.
They focus on what's on YouTube. They focus on garbage in social media. They come up with a million and one reasons to take their minds off the things that truly matter.
If you want to turn your life around and achieve the kind of reality you think is essentially cut off from you, you have to step up. You have to say to yourself that you are the owner of your life. You are responsible for your life.
Nobody will take that responsibility. Everybody's got enough problems of their own. Sure you may come across people in your romantic life who would say to you that you complete them. You would come across people who would say to you that you give them meaning.
But ultimately, they have to take care of #1. They have to take care of themselves first. You can't rely on those people to do something that you should be doing for yourself. This involves self love and self respect.
How can you love others when you can't even love yourself? How can you expect others to do something for you that you won't do for yourself?
This is why it's really important to take ownership of your life. Make it personal. If you're struggling in any area of your life, it is worth your time to focus on that area. It is worth your time to put in the time, effort and energy to figure out what's going on so you can get better results.
This is not going to go away by itself. This is not going to go away anytime soon if you don't put in the right amount of time and focus. You have to do it. Take ownership today.
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Personal pride can push your personal effectiveness upward and out
Usually, when people talk about pride, they often frame it in negative terms. As the old saying goes, we shouldn't be proud because pride comes before the fall. How many times have you heard of people celebrating the bad karma of somebody who is very arrogant or prideful?
It's not unusual for most people to view pride in negative terms. They think of somebody unreasonable, someone who's a bully or somebody who's basically a jerk. But believe it or not, pride can actually make you a better person.
I'm not talking about the sensitive, touchy kind of pride where you take offense when you feel when people don't give you the respect that you think you deserve. I'm not talking about that kind of pride. That kind of pride is worthless in my opinion.
Instead, the pride that I'm talking about involves pride in your work. It involves the connection between the things that you choose to do with your time and who you are as a person. This definition of pride connects the dots between the output that you produce and the value system that you use to produce it.
Make no mistake. Everything external about you is a reflection of your internal truths. The way you dress, your haircut, the way you talk, the way you carry yourself and yes, most importantly, the quality of your work are reflections of your values as a person.
If you take pride in the work you do, it's going to show. You're not going to show up to work late. You're not going to put in very little effort. You're not just going to waste your time at work just enough to collect a paycheck. Instead, you're going to do whatever it takes or however long it takes to produce maximum value in the lives of people depending on you. Why would you do this?
Well, you understand that this is a reflection of who you are as a person. That whatever output you produce with your efforts is a reflection of your quality as a person. That is real pride. If you use that kind of pride, you become a more effective person across the board.
You not only become more knowledgeable. You become more authoritative, efficient and yes, more effective. This is how you earn more money. This is how you command greater respect. This is how you live a more substantive and substantial life. It is all based on the concept of pride.
It's kind of like having a personal brand. When you buy a bag and it has a Hermes logo on it, you have certain expectations. You know full well that chances are high that that bag is not going to fall apart the moment you buy it. Chances are it's going to be of the utmost quality and reliability. After all, it has the Hermes brand.
Well, look at your personal pride as your personal brand. When people see your work product, they see your brand. When people see how you talk and how you treat other people and how you carry yourself, they see your personal brand. That is the pride that I'm talking about.
Personal pride can help you become a more effective and successful person. It doesn't matter what you're struggling with in the here and now. Use the power of personal pride to take things to a whole other level.
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Use the power of emotional ownership to get more stuff done
I remember the first time I worked in corporate America. I was hanging out with people who were simply there because they had nothing better to do after college. They looked at their first corporate job as some sort of “holding tack” for graduate school, getting married, or professional school.
As you can well imagine, these people that I worked with really did not take their work all that seriously. This should be clear that if you don't take whatever it is you're doing seriously, you have no business expecting to get rewarded to do what you're supposed to do.
That's precisely what happened. Most of my friend did not get promoted. In fact, a lot of them never managed to get a pay raise. Still, this did not prevent them from complaining about their lack of success. They're quick and eager to point the finger to things and people out of their control.
They convinced themselves that maybe their boss simply had it in for them. Maybe they were just in the wrong industry and there's something wrong with their situation.
This really is quite sad because what I saw with my coworkers is pretty much a microcosm of how most people look at their lives. We refuse to take ownership of our decisions. We refuse to see the connection between our choices and the lives that we are living.
Make no mistake, your life is a choice. How much money you make, what you look like, where you live, the size of the car you drive, the brand of the car you drive, the amount of respect you get, all of those are choices.
When you make a choice and you take action on those choices, things begin to change. That's how life works. That's how reality plays out. Unfortunately, a lot of people turn a blind eye to this. They're too quick and eager to blame everything and anything outside of themselves for whatever is going on in their lives.
Little do they know that they can't control these other people. It's hard enough to change yourself, can you imagine trying to change other people? If you want to achieve great things with your life, use the power of emotional ownership.
How do you do this? Well, please understand that everyday, you're supposed to produce results. Those results are judgments of your character. Get emotional over that fact. If you feel that you're not getting paid enough, well, this means that you have to take emotional ownership. This means that you have to produce more work of a higher quality at a faster rate.
This means that you have to network better. This means that you have to go the extra mile. If you still don't get paid what you think you should be paid, at least you learned enough skills for you to take to your next job and the next job after that.
Eventually, somebody will reward you because you know that your work is an expression or reflection of who you are. It's a reflection of your values, character and everything and anything that is fundamental about you.
If you look at your work life from this perspective, it's only a matter of time until you achieve the victory you are capable of achieving.
Give yourself the gift of a sense of urgency
Do you find yourself struggling in certain areas of your life? Do you find yourself lacking motivation when it comes to certain big projects that you'd like to pursue? If you're like most people, you know what you should be doing to take your life to the next level. In fact, these things should not be a mystery to you.
This is not rocket science. If you were to ask most people, they know what they need to be doing or working on so their life can dramatically improve. Still, for whatever reason, they're not doing what they're supposed to do.
They have a clear idea. In fact, a lot of people even have a plan or a series of action that they need to take to achieve big victories with their lives. Still, the vast majority of people have not decided to go down that road. Most people would rather take care of the small things or the daily trivialities of life before they tackle serious issues. What's going on?
Well, it's not because people are dumb. It's not lack of intelligence that pushes people to behave this way. It's also not laziness. The problem is every single day, there will always be opportunities to do other things.
If you're not careful and you're not set on a particular plan of action, your whole day can be filled up with side issues, side projects and stuff that came up at the last minute.
Now, this happens everyday. Can you imagine it taking up weeks, months or even years? This is precisely why most people are unable to achieve the big victories or reach the big goals that they have set for themselves.
Again, it has nothing to do with intrinsic capacity like intelligence or emotional awareness. Instead, they simply rob themselves of a sense of urgency. If you don't have a sense of urgency, everything is of equal value. You end up chasing your tail and achieving very little as far as your big goals are concerned.
So, how do you give yourself the gift of a sense of urgency? You only need to do one thing: set a deadline. When you set a realistic deadline for doing certain things or achieving certain things, you light the fire under your feet.
You tell yourself, “By this date, I am going to take action. By this date, I'm going to make the necessary sacrifices and I'm going to line up everything so I take action in a certain sequence to produce a certain result.”
That's how you gain a sense of urgency because at that point, you're focused. At that point, you have stopped playing around. Things no longer look equal in your eyes because now, you have a priority. You see how this works?
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Don't give yourself so much time you constantly run out of time
When you're setting deadlines for yourself, make sure you select the right deadline. You have to understand the reason why deadlines exist in the first place. They're not just about putting some chronological restraints on a particular project.
While there's a lot of value to that, there's something more to deadlines that strict, time-based parameters. The main reason why deadlines work is because they force people to take action before a certain time passes.
In other words, they push people to do things that they normally would not do. Let's face it, people being people would rather kick the can down the road, or better yet, don't do what they're supposed to do at all.
That's the basic truth about the human condition. Doesn't matter where you come from, doesn't matter how much education you have. This is true for all people.
With everything else being equal, we'd rather not do anything that is outside of our comfort zone. We'd rather do things that we're accustomed to. This is why big projects often terrify us.
We know what we're supposed to do. We know how much good achieving these things will have in our lives, but we can't quite get ourselves to do it. How come? We're scared of change.
We're afraid that we might have to give up certain things. We're afraid of putting in all this time, effort and energy only to come up short. The last thing that most people want for themselves or their families is to try really hard only to come up short and fail.
This is why they give themselves all sorts of excuses and deadlines terrify people. Well, here's the problem. When you set a deadline that is so far out into the future, you're just setting yourself up for disappointment.
Sure, from time to time, you are able to do things right on time or even well ahead of schedule. But let's get serious here. How often does that happen? In fact, if your like most people, you can probably count that with one hand.
When we set a deadline far into the future, the rest of our lives catch up. There's all sorts of duties, obligations and responsibilities competing for our time. This is why we run out of time constantly because if you set up a deadline long into the future, there will be all sorts of new stuff taking up your schedule.
If you're not careful, by the time the deadline comes, you're just as unprepared as if you had set up the deadline to a much earlier date. You see how this works?
So, don't give yourself so much time that you constantly run out of time. Instead, set up a realistic deadline so as to maximize the value of the deadline. In other words, the deadline should motivate you to action. It should get you to take action right on time. That's how you set the proper deadline.
Of course, you shouldn't set the deadline so close that it scares you. In fact, it can be so scary and intimidating that you end up paralyzed.
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