Happiness is so interesting, because we all have different ideas about what it is and
how to get it. I would love to be happier, as I’m sure most people would, so I thought
it would be interesting to find some ways to become a happier person that are actually
backed up by science. Here are ten of the best ones I found…
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Thank goodness for journaling and those who journal. If it were not for journals, much of history would be lost forever. We owe so much of our knowledge of our forefathers and the world before us to those who took the time to make entries in their journal.
Ship captains kept daily logs while at sea and most of our founding fathers kept journals as they formed a new nation. Long before that, records were kept on scrolls with quill and some form of ink.
Hieroglyphics line the ancient tombs of the pharaohs giving us an insight into what their lives were like. Even cave men recorded history on rocks and hillsides. Where would we be today if it were not for journals?
You may say, “Sure that’s all well and good for famous people such as presidents and celebrities, but I don’t have the time – and even if I did, nothing of any importance happens to me.”
Journals should be kept for you and what they can do for you regardless of your position in life. That’s reason enough, but think how much your children and grandchildren will learn about their ancestors from the journal you may start today.
You may think you’ll always remember what you did on a certain date and why you decided to buy that article you always wanted but as the saying goes: “The faintest ink is better than the most retentive mind.” Writing down your thoughts and actions is one of the easiest and most compelling ways to remember and record your personal life.
Your brain is trained to think in a sequence of events. Every thing is in order and has its place. The mind is capable of processing myriads of thoughts at any given moment. And, as you would imagine, those thoughts are like sentences. They contain a beginning, a middle and an end. It’s like giving a speech when one thought relates to another and so on until the logical end.
By writing down your thoughts in a journal you can break free of sequential thinking and examine them from a new perspective. Remember when Merlin in Camelot urged Arthur to soar like an eagle to view his thoughts and problems from high above the land. From there he said there are no fences and no boundaries. His thinking was set free with nothing to restrain it in conventional limitations.
Journaling gives clarity to your problems and allows you to substantiate your progress. It’s easy to think you’ve made no progress and nothing of import occurred until you reread your journal a year later. A question you may have thought impossible to solve will suddenly present itself with a solution when you view the written word.
Be specific when making entries. It may seem trivial at the time but later when you examine the big picture you’ll see how it all came together and how events are still unfolding. Write down your goals, intentions, obstacles, challenges, your likes and dislikes. Make a note of people who’ve helped you and those who likely will in the future.
You can create a journal in a book or on your computer. Software for this purpose is available. A journal gives you direction. It shows where you’ve been, where you are now and where you’re going. Begin a journal today. You’ll gain more insight into yourself than you ever thought possible.
Some people are born doers. Some people are born thinkers. Some think about doing and never get anything done. There are many ways to become a person of action and what works for someone else may not work for you.
Action people are usually people who are organized and seem to know exactly how to proceed from one project to another seamlessly and without effort. Others flounder in a world of disorganization, haplessly moving one piece of paper to another location without knowing why. At the end of the day, the doers typically have more energy than at the beginning as they feed on taking action.
The flounders at the end of the day are still floundering and can’t understand why nothing has been accomplished and they feel exhausted. They step back to assess their day’s accomplishments and deceive themselves into believing progress is being made, when in realty little or nothing has been done.
For these people, organization is an essential key. Whether it’s for your home or business, make a to-do list and prioritize it. Put the most important ones at the top and each time you complete a goal or project scratch it off and feel the satisfaction. Don’t mark it off until it’s done. No cheating or rationalizing.
When everything on the list is finished, reward yourself. Even if you don’t quite complete the list in one day, go ahead and celebrate your victories. This gives you something to look forward to and gives you incentive to accomplish more. Again, be honest with yourself and only accept reward when deserved.
Another plan of action states that you can waste too much time making lists and you should visualize your task at hand until you have the energy to do it. They suggest you sit quietly, clear your mind of all other things and concentrate on your task or goal at hand. See yourself doing the project in vivid detail. Whatever the job entails imagine yourself doing each and every step. Fantasize about it, if you will.
Thought waves become energy waves as you focus your mind on one central thought. These energy waves build until you feel the energy surging inside you pushing you into action.
You’ll build up so much energy you will be forced to act. At that point, take action. It could be just a small part of your overall project but let yourself be compelled to action. This energy will dissipate, so do as much as you can before it leaves your body.
You’ve probably worked with a mind energy force involuntarily. There’s a problem you’ve faced during the day and can’t find a solution. Clear your mind, concentrate on the problem, even sleep on it and seemingly out of nowhere the answer becomes clear and you can take action. A happy attitude is imperative. Most people who are happy are active. Associate with happy people. Change the way your think and you will change the way you act.
We’ve all asked the question: How does the motivator stay motivated when it’s obvious he or she is being beset with seemingly insurmountable obstacles? No matter who we are, we will all be granted a share of success and failure.
It’s easy to stay motivated when we reach one goal after another. We may even find it difficult to understand how someone can be down in the dumps when life can be so good to you. Then, failures, problems and obstacles enter your life and it’s not so easy to remain motivated.
Even the most renowned leaders and speakers must find a way to overcome these burdens and move forward if they’re to maintain success in both their professional and personal life.
There are many ways to overcome your obstacles and make your motivation continue to soar; but on the other hand, there is no one perfect answer for everyone. You must find the way within yourself.
Understand what’s causing your fears and your obstacles. The reasons could be tangible or they could be emotional. They could be real or imagined. Once you’ve determined what your fears are, ask yourself what is the worse case scenario.
If all of your obstacles and fears become reality what is the worse thing that could happen. When put into perspective, the culmination of these events probably would not be the end of your life or even your lifestyle as you know it.
Believe in your goals and yourself and nothing can stop you. Analyze what you’re striving for and what you and your company, or your family, will gain by achieving these goals. If you do not believe in what you’re doing then you’re on the wrong track and should return to square one for reassessment.
Take action quickly. Visualize yourself overcoming these obstacles and your triumph over them. Don’t put off positive action no matter how small and seemingly insignificant.
The smallest success that stems from your action instills faith and belief in yourself and your ability to succeed. Obstacles have many faces and we must decide how we can stare them down. If the magnitude of the obstacles is too large for you to handle emotionally, break it down into smaller tasks.
Remain cheerful and positive and watch the size of the problem diminish. It’s the old rule of mind over matter, or obstacles if you will. Refuse to let negative thoughts rule your brain.
Stay inspired. You can do this by reading inspirational books, or watching motivational video or audio courses. Your environment should consist of inspirational people and things. Our surroundings enable us to become what we are.
Obstacles are inevitable but how we deal with them is not. We can choose to overcome and be happy or we can be miserable. Don’t dwell on self-doubt. Are your fears realities or something you fear might happen if you fail to take proper action? Faith is instilled when you tackle the task.
One of the great motivators of our time is Margaret Thatcher who said, “Look at a day when you are supremely satisfied at the end. It’s not a day when you lounge around doing nothing; it’s when you’ve had everything to do, and you’ve done it.”
Not everyone gets out of bed in the morning easily and in a good mood. Some can bounce out of bed eagerly anticipating the day and will talk your ear off if there’s anyone to listen. Others groggily stagger out of bed reluctantly and you better not speak to them or they’ll bite your head off.
Which of these describes you? Or do you fall somewhere in between? Which would you rather be? Typically, the person who bounds out of bed wide awake is the person who gets more done in the morning and is happier to do it. This isn’t always true. Some get just as much work done; it just takes them longer to get to it.
If you’re not happy with your morning habits and want to change, it can be done but it has to be a concerted effort on your part. Many people don’t want to change. They’ve been that way for years and it works for them. On the other hand, who wants to be an old grouch in the morning making yourself and everyone else miserable?
You can become an early happy riser and make it a habit you will embrace. First, admit your current method of waking up in the morning isn’t working and you want to change.
Be willing to try a different method and realize it may not be the first different method you try that will transform you into a new you.
Technique is important. Prepare yourself for bed with the same routine if possible. With children and spouses this is sometimes difficult. Start with a healthy diet. Stay away from heavy fatty foods and sugars before bedtime. Eat dinner early. Of course, no caffeine or other stimulant before bedtime.
Try the early healthy dinner a few nights and make a note as to how you feel the next morning. Is it working? If not, don’t give up. You just need to add more and different methods to your morning madness.
Exercise daily. The better shape your body is in the better it will sleep and the better you’ll feel each morning. Morning exercise is usually more helpful than just before bedtime. Nighttime exercise can get the blood flowing too much for you to fall right to sleep.
Do something pleasant before going to bed to put you in a good mood. Read a good book for a few minutes. Don’t get so caught up in it that you can’t put it down. Don’t balance your check book or pay bills before going to bed. Money worries are one of the main causes of sleeplessness.
Anticipate the morning routine. Don’t give yourself something boring to look forward to.
Make time for at least some morning exercise even if it’s just stretching. Perhaps, sit outside and greet the sunrise with a morning devotional. Count your blessings and plan your day. New morning habits were not accomplished in a day. Be patient and willing to experiment. Soon you’ll like yourself better in the morning and so will your family.
Mankind has been blessed with the free will of making decisions. These decisions can enrich our life or cause it to take a turn for the worse. Not a day goes by that we don’t make dozens, even hundreds of decisions, most without even thinking.
Daily, we decide when to arise, what to eat, what to wear and what route to take to work or wherever our destination leads. These are made with little pause or thought. Others require a little more insight such as where to vacation, who to date, who to marry, which car to buy and which neighborhood is best for security and schools.
The decisions we make, whether major or minor, affect our lives to no small degree and those decisions must be made. Some of us approach decision making with reluctance and dread being afraid of the consequences. Sure, almost any decision we make could involves conflict and dissatisfaction. Yet, we must take control and make the decision and accept the outcome, good or bad.
Decision making is a lot like bill paying. Both must be done and usually within a certain time frame. If we’re late paying our electric bill the consequences can be the discontinuance of power or a late fee.
If you fail to make a decision in a timely manner it could be taken out of your hands and placed in the hands of others. Avoiding decisions or avoiding paying bills may seem easier but results are rarely desirable.
Why must you make a decision? Identify the purpose, determine exactly what has to be solved and when. It might make the problem become clearer if you make a pro and con list. Study the list and the different choices and evaluate each in terms of consequences. If I make this decision what will happen and if I make another decision this is the result.
Determine the best decision, evaluate the outcome and make the decision. You might be criticized for making the wrong decision but you’ve done the best you can do with all the information available and you moved forward. You made a decision. You did something before being run over from behind. The only people who are never criticized are those who do nothing.
A key decision can alter your life. Accept this fact and approach it with eagerness. In the movie Sliding Doors, a woman’s life is changed dramatically because she failed to make it through a sliding door.
The movie gives us an opportunity to see how she handles each set of circumstances. This is probably an over dramatization, but illustrates the power and importance of our decisions.
Gather information on the decision to be made, determine the best alternative and put that decision into action. Look back only to learn from your past decisions but don’t dwell on them. Move ahead and focus on your future. Decision making requires a plan. If you don’t know where you’re going then one decision is as good as the other.
It’s a good feeling to make a conscious decision about yourself and your life and each time you do this the process becomes easier and your confidence builds. Make a commitment, make a difference and take control of your life.
Have you ever known someone who would do anything to get what he wanted or to get where he wanted to be? You’ve watched that person be dishonest and take advantage of others to achieve his goal. They say anything and promise everything to get to the top and grab the brass ring.
It may sound like we’re talking about politicians and unfortunately this is true of many of them. But actually, these characteristics are evident in many of those we come in contact with every day in our business and personal life. It’s unbelievable how many people are gullible enough to be drawn in to their web of deceit. These people sacrifice their values to reach their goals.
It’s said that if you want to be successful, if you want to lead, then align your values with your goals. If what’s important to you in your daily living can help you reach your objectives then you’re on your way to the top. Values and goals must complement each other for you to be effective.
But, if you struggle with anxiety and unhappiness as you strive for your aspirations then reaching them may not give you inner peace and happiness even if you’re successful. Don’t act like who you’re not to become someone you won’t like once you get there. If you don’t like yourself then no one else will either.
Define your goals. Of course, there are many types of goals and you must decide which is most important to you and your family. Most people when asked to define their goals first think of their career and monetary achievement.
This may include material possessions and social standing in the community. These could coincide with personal and spiritual goals as you climb the mountain of life. Aspire to strike a balance in all these qualities of life.
Define your values. What do you stand for? Is it courage, honesty, dedication, generosity, thoughtfulness, tolerance, loyalty? What drives you each day to get out of bed and do what you have to do? It could be love of family and God. It could be the thought of possessing power and money. Or, you could just feel peace in helping others achieve their goals.
If you’re to be happy in your career and personal life you must align your values and goals. You could fake it until you make it, but unless these are your true values it would be a hollow victory. Be true to yourself, work hard each day and you’ll become the person you deserve to be.
Who do you admire? It could be a famous person who exhibits the values you’d like to possess. There are many notable politicians, clergy, actors and athletes who live the quality of life you admire. Not necessarily their money but their character. Aspire to be like them.
The person you admire and wish to imitate could also be a personal friend or a family member. Ask them what motivates their lives and how they aligned their values with their goals. If you’re properly aligned with the values and goals of your life, you’ll never regret where you are and where you will end.
If you’re one of the few people who isn’t plagued with the problem of procrastination then you’re blessed beyond all measure. This thief of time can quietly rob you of precious minutes, yea hours, before you realize they’re gone. You search for them and wonder where the time has gone, but it’s too late.
The task you intended to complete today was put off until tomorrow and there was good reason to do so, but you can’t remember why just now. Procrastination comes in many disguises. It’s called rationalization sometimes. You say, “I didn’t get started on that project because the weather was too hot or I didn’t have all the parts.” One can always come up with many good reasons to delay a project.
Procrastination can become a habit and if you keep putting off getting new habits then procrastination will be your constant companion. We find ways to delay a task because there are other things more important to do. Many times these are merely excuses such as checking your email, playing an on-line game or surfing the TV to see if you’re missing something interesting.
You must recognize a real reason to delay as opposed to just an excuse not to do something you don’t want to do. Ask yourself if that job really needs to be done and if your answer is yes then get it done and then reward yourself for a victory over procrastination. When the job is complete, step back and assess what you’ve done to see if it was worth the time and effort. Perhaps you were procrastinating for good reason, but that’s rarely the case.
Lack of direction can cause you to procrastinate because you’re not sure what to do next.
Disorganization could be the father of procrastination. Get organized with a to-do list with the most urgent at the top. Make a deal with yourself that you cannot do anything else until you accomplish at least one thing on the list. You can make giant strides with tiny steps.
Huge projects can be daunting whether you’re writing a book or building a house. You can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel because the elephant is standing in the way. Cut a slice out of that elephant one day at a time and soon it will be gone. A small manageable task is much more palatable than trying to swallow the entire project. No matter how small the success it’s another step toward completion.
Make a decision on what needs to be done and do it. Even if it’s wrong at least you’ve done something. Indecision can cause major delays in both your business and personal live. It’s easier to make a decision if you create a list of the pros and cons of what needs to be done. Once you have a clear direction, your mind clears and the path becomes apparent.
Fear of failure can cause procrastination. The failure lies in never getting started. Difficult and dreaded tasks are rarely as bad as they seem at the beginning. Stop procrastinating today. Don’t put it off until tomorrow.